Tele-Iyak-mode

Waking up in the middle of the night is one of the things I hate the most. Charot! Totoo.

Sinungaling ako! Or hindi ko lang talaga sinadya na ganon ang maging reaction ko? I am trying to go back to sleep but seems hindi na ako makatulog, para mapagod ako ito, magblog ako, ilabas ang nararamdaman ko.

Unang una, pasensya kana blog, ang aking telelalahbells na hindi naman tugma ang pangalan sa drama ko ngayon, feeling ko ang kulay ng buhay ng pangalan ng blog tapos ang laman, eto ka-artehan, drama sa ngayon. Bear with me, seryos ako. Promise na. lol

Para hindi mailto sa mga drama ko sa buhay. ito brief lang ang kwento ko.

Sa all life natin, ilang tao man ang dumaan at minahal natin, there’s always this one person na masabi natin na naging greatest love daw natin. Ows? Ganyan. sabaw na sabaw na talaga ako! Or baka nasabi ko lang yan kasi ang hapdi ng puso ko ngayon. (may sugat talaga, yon  na haha)

Dahil sa pagiging curious ko nga kay architect nong malaman ko ang pagbabago sa kanyang career, naisipan kong tingnan sa kanyang personal na buhay. Sa fb at twitter. May mga common friends kaya alam ko! (stalker ang peg) ito ang rants ko dati na kelan kaya ang pagkakataon na kaya ko ng tingnan ang buhay niya at dumating nga kagabi.

Pagkabukas ko, viooollaahh..

Magiging tatay na siya, may asawa na siya! Futah lang diba. Pero the worst experience I got nong Makita ko eh, hala natatae ako promise and I get so cold at sure the next thing I know, tumakbo na talaga ako sa cr para tumae. Hindi ata puso ko ang nastress but yong tyan ko ewan ko ano ba koneksyon. Hahaha

Sa mga panahon na nasa cr ako, napaisip ako kung saan ko ba nalagay ang ovary ko nong panahon na yon, plastic ba ang ovary ko, fake, manhid or sadyang kulang lang sa battery kaya hindi gumana. Hindi rin naman ako ready noon, char! It’s true, ang dami ko lang inisip, inasikaso sa personal kong buhay kaya things went bad.

Dahil bonggang iyak na rin ako, nagtext ako kay fiel, kay arline para may makausap ako kasi hindi ko alam pano ko ilabas ang naramdaman ko. Thanked God to King Archie also he was there to talk to me. Ang heart to heart talk nauwi pa rin sa harotan. Its natural! Ganyan! lol Thank you sa inyo, I feel better eventually, sa jokes, sa harot and sa comfort, all I need is someone or somebody na makakausap to divert whats in my mind, this what I called “talking therapy”  I was taught of that nong nagkaron ako ng unfinished professional issues with my mom, they just let me talk and talk until I cried and it helped, I moved on.

It’s just so funny reading his timeline with the hashtags na kami lang ang nakakaalam, na naging code name namin noon, even the dates that are significant to us, may notes pa rin siya. Kaya kahit alam kong may bagong buhay na siya ngayon, I know he can’t still let it go. May special connection pa rin in between kahit wala na kaming communication, I could still feel it but hanggang doon nalang talaga kasi. Sinisi talaga niya ako sa lahat-lahat but I have to stand sa ano mang decision ko noon, I can’t leave my mom at that time who is sick, trying times namin sa pamilya noon and hindi ko kaya na pagsabayin lahat, I need to give up and before I did that, ginawa na niya pala. And months after, ang bilis talaga ng recovery or palit period ng lalaki so I moved on again.

Like I said, just bear with me, just let me do the ranting, things will be over. Maybe I just need this to finally close that book. I opened it pa kasi dahil para maghanap ng dahilan para sunogin. Roots. Ang daming magandang memories that I can’t throw it away noon dahil siguro I’m still holding on to that “kind” of love I have with him once. Naiyak ko na eh, kaya ok na ako don. Swerte lang ngayon kasi no beer, no hard liquor na malamang sa 2^nd time hahalikan ko ang sarili kong suka, face to face pa sabay simot amoy ng pulutan malas pa kung boy bawang.

Lahat dadaan tayo sa ganitong pagkakataon na masaktan, madaya, at madapa para matuto, magkaron ng leksyon at makapagingat sa susunod. I am thinking this positively kasi if I dwell on it, ako rin ang lugi, ako rin ang hind imaging masaya. Siguro sa ngayon lang naman ito, eventually mawawala din lahat ng  to, once I cried it out, soon enough maging ok na ako. Focus sa career which I know successful ako don but palpak sa buhay pag-ibig, its nature na hindi talaga nabibigay sayo lahat ni God. Accepted.

I Still thanked God for this even though its painful, I experienced it, I learn to live with it and I will learn to understand and listen more sa mga kaibigan ko kung sakali mararanasan nilang masaktan din. Sana wag naman. Kailangan kong panindigan ang mga advices ko sa kaibigan ko dahil i will never be an effective counselor (someday) kung hindi ko i-aapply rin sa sarili ko ang natutonan ko. Nga-ngang nga-nga lang ako niyan! 

pero sayang na sayang lang ang sinigang na bangus na niluto ko last night, pinaghuhugutan ko talaga yon kaso nawalan ng tubig dahil sa pagbutingting ko nga sa twitter. hindi na rin ako nakapagdinner dahil wala pa akong nakain, natae ako sa stress. syet. hahaha 

Telelalalamorning!! 
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Tele-good-Friday

No claps, no dance and split for the intro of this post since it’s good Friday. (bait ako now, this moment hehe)

Dami ko pang sinabi eh mag-eemote lang din ako naman jowk

Nooooo… I am trying not to. Char!!

Dahil lang ito sa MUSIC ROOM ng mga bloggero authored by RIX

Ito ang resulta ng good Friday afternoon ko…

Dahil sa mga kanta na nasa music room, naisip ko ulit yong kanta na matagal ko ng iniwasan dahil sa pagbubuwis ko ng buhay non charing! Hindi ako tinatablan ng blade lang, kahit kutsilyo walang sinabi. CHAIN SAW malamang walang ligtas aking kamay doon lels.

Seryos na ako…

Itong kanta na ito…

If u read between lines you will know what message I am telling you…

Hands up ako, wala akong alam. (seryos yan)

For all you know, ngayon ko lang ito i-reveal roottss. Behind all those smiles and laughter na meron ako, ito ay dahil sumugal ako sa buhay minsan, nadapa ako, at natuto, naging tanga at nabulag (dilat na ang aking mata ngayon promise lol) and that helped me to be a happy person now. This is what i always tell to those people na nalulungkot "sadness will lead you to new happiness" yan lang ang nangyari sakin. lel.

That song, yan ang kwento ng buhay pag-ibig ko minsan (malaking charing!) oo may pag-ibig din ako naman! (i'm counting joke!) Hahaha pero like I said HANDS UP AKO, I’m innocent. (pls I’m so innocent don’t kill me hahaha)

Want to know? Now na? later nalang kaya? Hahaha

Sige na nga. You may judge me or not but it’s up to you. I just want to disclose this to let go of those things behind my smiles and laughter. I don’t want to pretend anymore that I have a great life once in love. I want you to learn too what I have learned in life the same. I am aware with what’s right or wrong yet i never get a word from myself. But it was one of the best decision I made to let it go of that suicidal love (may suicidal love talagang term hahaha), honestly, I fought my feelings, I fought myself, my heart and my brain. It was hard, very hard that I almost lost myself in the process of healing (roootttss  may ganyang drama hahaha) and I won after all.

Maniwala kayo or hindi, he was once a blogger and never a single moment I thought of seeing him personally after all knowing the situation. He tried to reach me, he tried to stand in the airport for how many hours but I was tough enough with my decision not to, though I am really dying inside, its killing me seeing him far away from me (kantang kanta lang ang linya ko hahaha) but I need to hold on what is really right for me, my future and his. Kinaya ko though i broke down. (luhod at sinabing kailangan ko ng himala haha)

This is just one of the reason why i left blogging for a while. hihihi 

Separately, may real love life talaga ako bago ko siya nakilala and even after him (just same person lang naman). hahaha lol 

Love isn’t love after all…

Thanks paparix (papa-usohin para maging official side kick ni papa jack haha) of music room, this gave me a room to open a small box in my life. I felt so free and happy now. so, pwedi na akong mag-artista? hahahaha 

That feeling you will never forget

Maniwala or hindi! Ang professor ko ay isang classmate ng nanay ko since 1^st year college until 4^th year sila! Tan-ena! bohahaha they are really good friends sabi nitong professor ko. Yeah, before he became my professor, I heard a lot already about him from my late mother. Almost 35 years since college day’s nila! Woo! Lahat ng sabi ng nanay ko, sinabi din ng professor ko, nyay! Sa harap pa ng buong klase! They don’t have any past, I know kasi I can read between the lines naman, so wala, wala naman akong narinig either.

I just couldn’t believe that all the things my mom did noon, inaani ko ang kabutihan niya today. This professor keeps telling everybody in the class that, yong nanay ko ang inu-utangan nila kapag wala silang pera kasi my mom is very lucky that time dahil yong tatay niya (lolo ko) eh president ng del monte Philippines before that’s why may kaya sila at ang nanay ko yata daw ang walang problema sa pera. I remember mom told me before that this professor I have now he will just eat “kamote” kasi wala pang pera na pinadala galing sa probinsya. Ngayon? Successful na siya sa profession niya, he managed almost 300 people I think in his department sa dswd. Would you believe that? At its always in my mind what my mom told me that this professor, nangongopya pa dati sa case studies nila just to submit requirements. It’s so funny kasi today everybody respects him, kinakatakotan at dekalidad na tao na si sir! Hahaha but si sir, he admitted to the class that when he was in college, yong mommy ko ang kinokopyahan nila! Tan-enas nuh!!

What happened to them way back in college, it happened the same with me today. It just so happened that I already have a job while studying again, that’s why yong mga classmates ko rin kapag gipit sila minsan, they would ask sa akin if I have spare. Anak talaga ako ng mommy ko! Hahaha I walked the same path she did!

This professor can’t stop saying good things to my mom kasi I know he is very grateful dahil sa oras ng kagipitan my mom was there for them to rescue and stayed with them sa hirap at ginhawa. I always feel that gratefulness and I am proud of what mom did to them. Tama ang sabi ni mommy that bilog ang mundo, dahil hindi all the time nasa baba ang isang tao, dahil nasa baba man siya ngayon, bukas nasa taas naman siya! ganon daw talaga ang buhay! and i stand to believe on that matter!

Pressure is in me now! Activated! Nganga ako nito!! I need to double time pa kasi kahit mom is not with us anymore, ayoko pa ring mapahiya ang mommy ko! Hahaha mataas ang expectation ng lahat tan-ena ang word na expectation! Nyay! Lels! Hahaha He is old now, almost 65 years old and about to retire that’s why he took the opportunity to teach in order to pass what he learned, no one follow his footstep kasi his daughter took the other road of success. When I told this professor, “I took up social work because I want to continue the legacy mom left us” and the only thing he said “dapat lang may susunod sa pamilya niyo!” (may slight tampo pa ang boses ni sir address to his daughters! Lels!) and if it’s possible to run fast to reach that goal, ginawa ko na! lels!

I am not holding up

It’s been a while since I decided not to know anything about you, I don’t want to feel that pain again. I don’t want to get hurt, I am afraid of what will I know either. I’d rather escape it than passing through all over again. It has been a tough semester to me this year, I’ve gone through a lot already and I don’t know if I can still hold on, even if I am that strong as what you think, I could give in, I am just human, I get tired, I get lost, I get weak. I don’t have magic to change what I felt, it’s in there, I can’t run away from that.

I know it’s hurting me a lot, I am feeling it and I even understand it but it’s still killing me. My heart is getting weak, my mind keep telling my heart that there’s no other way to forget everything but to accept and be ready to let it go, yes, but how? when? I don’t know whom to get angry, what to angry about. I just couldn’t understand what the hell is going on with me now. I am trying to apply what I learnt in class but my emotion is pulling me back. I really understand that there’s no turning back, that it is not right anymore, that it couldn’t be yet I still remain in distress.  

I am not bitter, I just probably felt that “sayang” because I know how we’ve been, how we’ve exchange our hearts all this time and clash attitudes that knows how to meet half way, the kindness and too much understanding between us, believing that communication is the best foundation in any kind of relationship and fails in trusting each other.

I don’t know how long I will be holding this up. How I wish I am ready to let go of you, to re-open my heart to new possibilities, to a dream that I will be reaching alone. I know there’s always a reason in everything but this caused me too much pain already that I could no longer bare it. I know I can make it through time, only that I cannot wait for too long. 

Weighing Emotions

As I went home tonight, there are a lot of things in my mind. I thought of those times when I started to learn how to accept things just the way they are.

I couldn’t forget the first two weeks in school, I burst it out, and I can’t control those emotions that I have at that time. I felt the weight in my heart because every day, it always reminds me of my mom. Everything is so fresh, the pain is still there, the wounds won’t heal, and it’s getting even deeper. I tried to give a part of myself to let it out, to somehow let my ill feelings out through a professional help from our program coordinator. I had mixed emotions because she was a very good friend of my mom; she knew almost everything what happened to my mom’s career and our life. i know that “papunta pa lang ako, pabalik na siya” The feelings I had that moment was like the first time I knew I have given a “transparent” emotion towards her, I couldn’t help myself anymore, it was really heavy, so definitely she is not a friend of my mom that moment, not even our program coordinator but a friend.

I have no one to talk about it at home, the more I shared it with my sister the more I felt that anger and hatred so I have to choose not to say anything about it or I am going to take more pain from her side. I was so silent all those years, I have seen how my mom cried day and night, every moment she remembered how her co-social workers betrayed her. Everyone thought that I was strong because I don’t let my emotions visible to everyone. I am not a talky type of a person; I am passive because to some situations that I just wanted to ignore it so I will not get hurt.

Social work has opened my eyes, my heart and emotions. If I was the person who says a few words, now i am person who wanted to share more. I tried to understand every point in my life where there is too much pain, frustration, desperation and hurt but sometimes I would end up asking still “why?” I am not questioning why God gave us this instead I am asking for a question of “why it has to go that far?”

Well, now I slowly start to pick up the broken pieces in my life. 

My shifting dreams

This is an archive from my old blog, one of my favorite emotions and thoughts before. I never thought that those visualizations i came through across my life's journey has became my real life and world now.

I could still remember how we used to dream together with my colleagues, how we wanted to be on the top of the mountain, you see I  dreamt to be an architect one day, I never thought that those dreams later than will just shift into some sort of who I actually desire to be and perhaps born to be. nevertheless, things take place for a reason and I’m thankful to the office where I belong now, that helped me to open my eyes in all the possibilities in life and helped me restore myself as well, it helped me to reconstruct my dream and begin to believe that I can have it. Shifting dreams is not that easy, I found my world but it was not my life then. We are born to be great, to accomplish something of worth for which you came into the world for. It has been said that life is nothing more than a search – a continuous search for a cause to live and die for, to be governed by the thought and dreams and propelled by a concealed urge to achieve.  It is unconscious, it is automatic. It is that nagging feeling tugs at you when you are alone, that there is something more. There’s always something more.

I have to open my eyes to full potential. I have to learn to treasure ourselves, know our worth, and look deep into ourselves to discover who we really are and what we came to this earth for. Only then can we be able not to fear our own greatness.

Random thoughts came

I have been busy lately so I was not able to update my personal blog. It is I think also my choice to keep myself again away from emotions and thoughts. I’ve been dealing a lot personally and I just want to escape it for a moment. I gave a thought that one day I am going to treat myself outside the city, a place where I can only see mountains, rivers and trees, I just wanted to ease the pain I felt it, I just want to run away from reality.

When I started to go back to school, I decided to leave everything behind, my old blog which has been my life, my world and a friend to me. I told myself now that I am going to take another hit this time, another world where I can jive in, I can talk with my emotions, my feelings, my thoughts and my passion. I am not good in writing, but I certainly believed that in blogging, no one will correct you; no one orders you what to write. One motto I have in blogging was “blog ko ‘to, wag kang makialam, gumawa ka ng sarili mo lol!”

It has been tough to leave the old life and start a new one, in all things. I am not sure if this time; I will find the happiness I found in my old blog, I am not also sure if this time everything will be real. I am still sure of giving my all, myself to the things I love to do, my passion in blogging. Life is different now, it may be hard but I know it’s the best way after all.