4 Nights and 5 Days

Lemeeee begin with a simple twerking dance. Charrooottss hahaha wooootttt… pap-parap-pap-pap!!!

How i started my stay.

YES!!! Yes because I spent 4 nights and 5 days sa isang branch ng center namin na nag-sheshelter ng mga batang survivor ng sexually abuse (we term it survivor dahil strength based tayo this time, that is according to unicef) 

Yes dahil patapos na ang aking practicum and I had the opportunity na pumunta sa Malaybalay, Bukidnon dahil ang 5^th case ko is doon sya nashelter kaya I need to stay so I can conduct sessions and study sa bata. Sa 3 months na I spent my days sa main center, talagang na-compressed ko in 5 days doon, kulang na kulang yong oras talaga but yon lang kasi ang oras na pwedi sakin because may subjects pa akong naiwan pero kung wala malamang 4 months magrequest akong don ako titira hahaha

Anyways, nakakastress man dahil yong case ko

This is my 2nd day. Bonding time in the pineapple plantation.

is medyo different from the usual case I had such as yong sibling and incest case. Ito is quite different dahil sabi ng social worker sa center (supervisor ko), kailangan ko i-dig ang kaso ng bata then she said “this is your 5^th case, this must be a tough one so it fits for you” naahh!! When I read it, boom!! Yes it’s different talaga kasi the incident happened 2 years ago, that is according to the child but there’s more than that when I discovered it nong nagpapamedico legal na kami. Isipin mong 3 hours kami sa women’s desk. Iyak dito, iyak doon, hawak sa upuan sabay pasok ung ulo don sa ilalim ng upuan. Ayaw niya magpapamedico legal. We respect that of course but if walang medico legal kasi walang case na mafifile so maiwang Malaya yong taong nag-aabuse nong bata. 

School visit. We fetched them also after our appointment.

The child is responsive sa mga tanong ng doctor pero once magsstart na yong papahiga na sya biglang nalulugmok na naman sya and started to cry out loud and telling us that “ayoko, ayoko because ang dami ng nakakakita nakakahiya na” okay, again we respect that and everybody decided to leave the room pero wala pa ren its almost 5:30 in the afternoon and we failed na mapamedico legal yong bata.

kids loves picture taking. sorry i covered their face bawal kasi.

Pero after 3 days I think, na convince rin namin siya for medico legal and this time we’re hoping na it’s real na talaga. Tinupad naman niya pero half lang ang nakita kasi yong other half eh hindi pwedi mahawakan or ma-open lalo kasi daw super sakit. Sabi ng doctor, hindi nalang ipilit total kahit incomplete daw eh positive naman daw yong bata na na-abuse at pwedi na daw magfile ng case. But then, yong discovery ko about the kid mas lumalim ng lumalim kaya sabi ko talaga sa social worker naming sa center na puntahan ko sya sa bukidnon so I can spend time with her and maintindihan ko yong running case niya. Pero nalaman ko din na hindi na-file yong case dahil minor yong lalaki (CICL) naakkk!! Naman!! Pwedi bang ibalik ang death penalty!? So ano ito? Aantayin yong lalaki na darating sa tamang edad saka i-aarrest? But the minor (abuser) will go to a diversion program ata something basta ang alam ko now, walang case na na-file, so ibig sabihin non pagala-gala pa rin yong lalaki. 

This what i do after our appointment in the city. Stress reliever.

Staying sa center for 4 nights and 5 days, ang dami kong natutunan sa mga bata. I was also amazed doon sa time we spent na nag-gather kami ng mga woods at twigs, we all have our small talks, sabi nila they used to gather woods and sell it as well as they know pano mapa-amo yong cow at carabao pero natuwa talaga ako don sa part na pauwi na kami at yong isang bata kumuha ng itak with all the feelings na tinadtad yong katawan ng gemilina tree and sabi nong isang bata “HOY! Bakit mo yan tinadtad!” ang sagot ng bata “kasi sinugatan niya yong paa ko!” hahaha yong kasama kong intern napaupo kakatawa kasi naisip pa yon ng bata lol well it was really fun to be with them kaso kulang talaga sa time, we’re just looking forward to see them all here sa cdo sa upcoming family day ng mga bata where their family and social workers will come to visit and spend time with them. 

So back with my case again, ibang iba siya sa center sa panahon na magkasama kami sa hospital dahil mas nakita ko yong pagiging makulit niya at maingay sa lahat ng bagay, magaling din siyang kumanta at sumayaw. Sabi ko nga sa kanya na sa last night naming sumayaw siya, sinagot niya ako “wala akong damit, wala akong bracelets at hanky” part kasi siya ng indigenous group kaya ganon nalang, specific siya. Hahaha 

A time to gather woods and twigs for bone fire.

So much for that, madami man paperworks sa center, dami ko man iniisip, all the pictures na makikita niyo is yon ang time we tried to compressed it maspend sa mga bata. We also went to their school para Makita kung ano ba sila kapag nasa skwelahan, they are really proud and sikat na sikat sila sa school nila dahil at that time we brought a camera with us so we took pictures and everybody is looking at them. Doon naman sa pinya plantation, marunong na marunong silang mag-identify ng matamis na pinya they also taught me how to get a pinya, yong kailangan mo pang ikotin yong buong pinya para makuha mo sya don sa crown niya. At ang best part sa stay namin is yong family night namin na gumawa ako ng “bannock” na i-wwrap sa hotdog. They’re only seven sa center ng bukidnon kaya na-afford namin ng co-intern kong sagotin ang hotdog at bannock hahahaha hindi kasi naming carry sa main center dahil there are 20 of them. So yon ang adventure ko sa Malaybalay Bukidnon sa 4 nights and 5 days. And oo nga pala, paguwi ko, lagnat inabot ko dahil sa weather doon, isipin mo nalang yong cold water na iniinom natin galing ng fridge natin yon lang ang normal na lamig ng tubig kapag naliligo ka. Hahaha halos hindi nga ako nakakainom ng water don most of the time I had 4 cups of coffee a day. wooott!! Hahahaha 

This the finale. Last night in the center.

So ito lang muna, I will be very busy in the next 2 to 3 weeks kasi I have deadline ng october 12 at family day ng october 11 so still we’re looking for benefactors to help us build a study area for the girls in the center so they will start to build their dreams too and believe that there will always a dream waiting for them. You and I can be a part of the child’s dream. God bless everyone!! Happy blogging. Woootttt!!! Pakkk-parak-pak!! Hehehehe 

Mga bilog na mukha paikot-ikot

Tinotoo ko na talaga ang sinabi kong mag-ggym ako. I stopped for almost three months din kasi naging busy-busyhan ako sa school and work, di kinaya ng sched ko kasi gabi matatapos ang clase ko. Sana makapag-adjust na ako this year kasi I REALLY NEED (hahaha) to lose weight para sa darating na practicum ko. Lol dumepensa pa ako talaga! Haha charos! Nagdadahilan pa talaga ako!

When I changed my profile pic sa fb ko nong new year (nakawhite with close up, echos!) a friend message me (mataba rin siya hahaha, pig nga tawagan namin kasi parehas kaming bilog since HS pa hanggang naging classmate kami ulit for this new course) she told me, wag yan kasi ang mukha mo bilog na bilog (bonggang tawa) and I told her (defense mechanism kagad) ok lang yan kasi swerte sa new year ang bilog! Hahaha kebs na ako! That pic was a year ago nong nagpunta kami sa isang community. Bilog talaga mukha ko at least hindi naging itlog o kaya mangga! Lels! Hahaha

Mula sa bilog, itong executive look ko naman, charos! Nag-ggym pa ako that time, Nagtrim down daw ako slight ansabeh!?! Parang wala naman pinagbago, trim down talaga? Parang halaman lang ha! Lol at finally after almost three months, yan na ang get up ko papuntang gym! kulay orange, ponkan na ponkan lang sabi ni jessica haha, may nagsabi ding "likas papayah" haha Ganyan! ang sweet nila! haha Kailangan conservative muna para hindi malanta ang pechay! Hahaha tan-enah yang pechay na term na yan, usapan sa twitter ata yan or sa comment sa blog, either si JonDmur, Rix, Pao, Cyron, Archie, Tonio lang ang nagsabi niyan, sila lang ang kilala kong wholesome, swear! they are very wholesome! lol basta isa sa kanila di ko lang ma-pin point (nagbintang talaga ako ano! Hahahaha sniff…) kung sino kasi hindi ako sigurado din! Hahaha hindi ko rin ata pweding pagbintangan si arline at senyor dito kasi busy-busyhan ang buhay nila lately, never mahanap. lol 

In 3 months time kailangan totoong anne Curtis na ang katawan ko! Haha (ambisyosa!) wag naman, masakit sa ulo ang ubod ng sexy, lantang lanta ka lang niyan! Hahaha wag nah! Iba pa rin ang kutis bebeh! Roowwttss!! At naalala ko ang sabi ni empi sa twitter, gusto daw niya magkasing laki kami, tang inah ayoko nah! Hahaha ayoko ng upo, talong, patola mas lalo naman kung sili! Magkamay ka nalang por-eber or kahit wag nalang! Iba pa rin ang totoo! Charos wag berdeh ang utak! Hahaha sa susunod ko na ikwento ang mga bagong papalicious na nakasabay kong mag-gym, magkakasala nako talaga! gibang giba ang reputasyon ko nito!! (sign of the cross) Bwahahahaha 

 

Pablo Pablito Pabling

I traveled 4 municipalities yesterday and that took me a day. itong si Pablo gave reasons to people to panic. Lels!! I congratulate all the disaster team for the preparedness because in our city and province walang casualties like we had with sendong. Now they are doing better than before, now people learned their lessons too.

It was a hell fun when I got the chance to travel in our municipalities. Yesterday was different in all the travels I had in the past. My officemate said I was like hitting two birds in one stone because I brought with me my closest friends from school to conduct an interview to solo parents in the municipalities. While I was doing my job delivering the relief goods, I accompany them to visit the local social welfare office to interview a focal person on solo parents. I did my job as an employee; I also did my homework as a student. Hahaha simpleng diskarte lang yan!! I have to do it wala akong choice I have been very busy with this Pablo. Naku! Hahaha

I just couldn’t take this out of my head when my boss called me that morning. Like he said – ok ibigay mo kay mayor yan and “magpakodak!” ka ha, (take picture with the mayor) hahaha i tried not to laugh while talking to my boss hahaha he could have said it like “magpapicture ka ha” tan-enay!! Hahaha my boss can’t still get out of his head that “Kodak” hahaha he is not old though.

While on our way, nakakatakot because we were in the military truck and going to the municipality where doon daw sila nagkaroon ng ambush! When the driver told me that, don’t you think hindi ka maparanoid? Hahaha and he even added that “military truck at may sakay na army, mainit sa mga mata ng mga npa yan!” nah!!! In my thoughts. I wonder what would be my face when that will happen, or what will I do in case may npa nga, at saan ako pupunta. Hahaha it’s really fun thinking about it!! Hahaha

No school today. Yes!!! Feast of Immaculate Conception! Oh yeah!! Now I love My RVM School. Hahaha

Christmas without you

Today is the last day of August and tomorrow will be the start of “BER” September, October, November and December. This means that Christmas is almost again to happen. Personally, there would be a lot of changes this year. We will celebrate Christmas without my mom.

Sometimes I don’t want to mention about my mom because it always reminds me of what life we have been, what pain we went through, I always remember how much she suffered from pain because of the people wants to see her in despair. I could always think of revenge but what will be the benefit I will have if I take an action soon, what I could get, it’s nothing!  

I am trying to reconstruct my life now; I am starting all over again. I am trying to move on and forget what we have been. Christmas won’t be the same without mom, I am sure of that. Gonna miss her chocolate cake, humba, chicken binacol, sapin-sapin, ube jam, suman, etc. all I wish that someday whatever pain I have now will be healed soon.

I am facing now the greatest challenge in my life, to prove and stand in behalf of my mom, I know I will never be like her but one thing I know, I can do something more. There are still unfinished issues in my life and I want to start it now without any hesitations. This time I am willing to face whatever failures will come my way, I guess I am now ready to face another chapter of my life with bravery.  Like what I always told myself, “I don’t want to repeat the same mistakes again!” it will never be a perfect journey but at least now I am trying to give more what I have given in the past.