4 Nights and 5 Days

Lemeeee begin with a simple twerking dance. Charrooottss hahaha wooootttt… pap-parap-pap-pap!!!

How i started my stay.

YES!!! Yes because I spent 4 nights and 5 days sa isang branch ng center namin na nag-sheshelter ng mga batang survivor ng sexually abuse (we term it survivor dahil strength based tayo this time, that is according to unicef) 

Yes dahil patapos na ang aking practicum and I had the opportunity na pumunta sa Malaybalay, Bukidnon dahil ang 5^th case ko is doon sya nashelter kaya I need to stay so I can conduct sessions and study sa bata. Sa 3 months na I spent my days sa main center, talagang na-compressed ko in 5 days doon, kulang na kulang yong oras talaga but yon lang kasi ang oras na pwedi sakin because may subjects pa akong naiwan pero kung wala malamang 4 months magrequest akong don ako titira hahaha

Anyways, nakakastress man dahil yong case ko

This is my 2nd day. Bonding time in the pineapple plantation.

is medyo different from the usual case I had such as yong sibling and incest case. Ito is quite different dahil sabi ng social worker sa center (supervisor ko), kailangan ko i-dig ang kaso ng bata then she said “this is your 5^th case, this must be a tough one so it fits for you” naahh!! When I read it, boom!! Yes it’s different talaga kasi the incident happened 2 years ago, that is according to the child but there’s more than that when I discovered it nong nagpapamedico legal na kami. Isipin mong 3 hours kami sa women’s desk. Iyak dito, iyak doon, hawak sa upuan sabay pasok ung ulo don sa ilalim ng upuan. Ayaw niya magpapamedico legal. We respect that of course but if walang medico legal kasi walang case na mafifile so maiwang Malaya yong taong nag-aabuse nong bata. 

School visit. We fetched them also after our appointment.

The child is responsive sa mga tanong ng doctor pero once magsstart na yong papahiga na sya biglang nalulugmok na naman sya and started to cry out loud and telling us that “ayoko, ayoko because ang dami ng nakakakita nakakahiya na” okay, again we respect that and everybody decided to leave the room pero wala pa ren its almost 5:30 in the afternoon and we failed na mapamedico legal yong bata.

kids loves picture taking. sorry i covered their face bawal kasi.

Pero after 3 days I think, na convince rin namin siya for medico legal and this time we’re hoping na it’s real na talaga. Tinupad naman niya pero half lang ang nakita kasi yong other half eh hindi pwedi mahawakan or ma-open lalo kasi daw super sakit. Sabi ng doctor, hindi nalang ipilit total kahit incomplete daw eh positive naman daw yong bata na na-abuse at pwedi na daw magfile ng case. But then, yong discovery ko about the kid mas lumalim ng lumalim kaya sabi ko talaga sa social worker naming sa center na puntahan ko sya sa bukidnon so I can spend time with her and maintindihan ko yong running case niya. Pero nalaman ko din na hindi na-file yong case dahil minor yong lalaki (CICL) naakkk!! Naman!! Pwedi bang ibalik ang death penalty!? So ano ito? Aantayin yong lalaki na darating sa tamang edad saka i-aarrest? But the minor (abuser) will go to a diversion program ata something basta ang alam ko now, walang case na na-file, so ibig sabihin non pagala-gala pa rin yong lalaki. 

This what i do after our appointment in the city. Stress reliever.

Staying sa center for 4 nights and 5 days, ang dami kong natutunan sa mga bata. I was also amazed doon sa time we spent na nag-gather kami ng mga woods at twigs, we all have our small talks, sabi nila they used to gather woods and sell it as well as they know pano mapa-amo yong cow at carabao pero natuwa talaga ako don sa part na pauwi na kami at yong isang bata kumuha ng itak with all the feelings na tinadtad yong katawan ng gemilina tree and sabi nong isang bata “HOY! Bakit mo yan tinadtad!” ang sagot ng bata “kasi sinugatan niya yong paa ko!” hahaha yong kasama kong intern napaupo kakatawa kasi naisip pa yon ng bata lol well it was really fun to be with them kaso kulang talaga sa time, we’re just looking forward to see them all here sa cdo sa upcoming family day ng mga bata where their family and social workers will come to visit and spend time with them. 

So back with my case again, ibang iba siya sa center sa panahon na magkasama kami sa hospital dahil mas nakita ko yong pagiging makulit niya at maingay sa lahat ng bagay, magaling din siyang kumanta at sumayaw. Sabi ko nga sa kanya na sa last night naming sumayaw siya, sinagot niya ako “wala akong damit, wala akong bracelets at hanky” part kasi siya ng indigenous group kaya ganon nalang, specific siya. Hahaha 

A time to gather woods and twigs for bone fire.

So much for that, madami man paperworks sa center, dami ko man iniisip, all the pictures na makikita niyo is yon ang time we tried to compressed it maspend sa mga bata. We also went to their school para Makita kung ano ba sila kapag nasa skwelahan, they are really proud and sikat na sikat sila sa school nila dahil at that time we brought a camera with us so we took pictures and everybody is looking at them. Doon naman sa pinya plantation, marunong na marunong silang mag-identify ng matamis na pinya they also taught me how to get a pinya, yong kailangan mo pang ikotin yong buong pinya para makuha mo sya don sa crown niya. At ang best part sa stay namin is yong family night namin na gumawa ako ng “bannock” na i-wwrap sa hotdog. They’re only seven sa center ng bukidnon kaya na-afford namin ng co-intern kong sagotin ang hotdog at bannock hahahaha hindi kasi naming carry sa main center dahil there are 20 of them. So yon ang adventure ko sa Malaybalay Bukidnon sa 4 nights and 5 days. And oo nga pala, paguwi ko, lagnat inabot ko dahil sa weather doon, isipin mo nalang yong cold water na iniinom natin galing ng fridge natin yon lang ang normal na lamig ng tubig kapag naliligo ka. Hahaha halos hindi nga ako nakakainom ng water don most of the time I had 4 cups of coffee a day. wooott!! Hahahaha 

This the finale. Last night in the center.

So ito lang muna, I will be very busy in the next 2 to 3 weeks kasi I have deadline ng october 12 at family day ng october 11 so still we’re looking for benefactors to help us build a study area for the girls in the center so they will start to build their dreams too and believe that there will always a dream waiting for them. You and I can be a part of the child’s dream. God bless everyone!! Happy blogging. Woootttt!!! Pakkk-parak-pak!! Hehehehe 

Telelalah Buhay Ngayon

Wrote originally September 7, 2013

Woooottt!!!!! Paaaamm!!! Param!!! Pam!!! Pam!!! (twerking twerking hahaha)

Hoommaaayyy!!! Gaaawwdd!!! I missssss this!!! Seriously!!! Hehehe

drum roll... labas dila... dilat mata... baaannngg!! baannngg!! baaam!!! hahaha

I just had a lot of things in mind for the last 3 months, it seems like binagsakan ako ng meteor na halos hindi na ako makabangon charrauuuggt tt lang!! hahaha

Ohh well, so much sa mga excuses.. tama na, I am guilty as charged na talagang nawalan ako ng panahon sa “telelalabells” namiss ko rin ang ingay ko sa blogsphere ano!! I just thought that kaya kong ipagsabay ang practicum at career ko sa blog kung meron mang ganon!!! Hahahaha wwoooo!!!! Paakk!!

Seryos.. seryos ako.. hahaha stress na stress ako kasi kaya I need to stay calm and breathe then boommm!!! Baaaakkkk barraaakkk ulet!! Hehehehe

Feeling ko lang biglang nagbagong buhay ako for a while hahaha chars lang!! oo nga! Hahaha I don’t know if you got to see one update sa facebook ko na nagretreat kami, as in RETREAT!!! Hahaha after 15 years, ito ulet ang retreat!! At seryoso talaga, mas na-absorb ko ang essence ng retreat pala!! Hahahaha well tama nga, sometimes in our life we need to DISCONNECT in order to RECONNECT. Hahaha seryosong seryoso ako eh ano! Hahaha ohhh well, there’s a lot more to tell.

Soooo.. ito na talaga ang dahilan sa stress ko everyday sa buhay ko mula nong nag-fefeeling super bagyo busy aketch!! Charreengg!! Hahaha

Well sa totoo lang, mas mahirap ang practicum life kaysa nong nag-wowork pa ako. Yes, indeed ang hirap dahil you have two responsibilities, sa school and sa center kung san ka nagppractice ng pinag-aaralan mo sa school. That’s it! and this is it really! Oo, I had so much fun, I had the best learning and experience and kahit tapos na ako sa oras ko but still I won’t stop until finals kasi ang habol ko is not the requirements, it’s not the hours I need but the lesson I will get from my experience.

Nong una, people would just hear , watch stories of a rape victim sa mga radio and tv, kahit ako I thought it’s all in the paper, and yes I admit na oo nag-eexist lang sila talaga, may mga laws tayo about don pero when I let myself go into their world, ang bigat! I have cases na ako mismo ang naghahandle and talagang draining especially when they started to disclose new informations, when they have their own tantrums, attitude problems in the center and so on.

The case I presented sa case conference namin, it was a case of a sibling abuse. Yes, magkapatid, it’s not a joke, it’s real, really. When I get the chance to visit their place, I think it’s 3 hours from the city, sumugal talaga ako whatever it takes, ang gusto ko lang is malaman san nag-ugat yong problema, bakit nagkaron ng pang-aabuso sa loob mismo ng bahay. Ang hirap intindihin ano? Pero totoo. Nong dumating kami sa bahay nila, ayyy ang ganda goodluck talaga kasi kulang nalang kumuha yong nanay niya ng itak at hahabolin kami sa galit niya. Hahahaha langheeyyaa talaga! Kakalokaah! Pero kahit papano successful naman yong home visit naming kahit yong experience namin eh parang hindi na kami makalabas sa lugar nila dahil sa galit ng pamilya niya kung baket yong anak niya eh kinuha ng government for custody and protection since the victim’s perpetrator eh still at large.

Ang super stress day ko is nito lang September 5, 2013 (Thursday), nong sabi ko sa araw eh nasa court hearing ako at sa hapon eh nasa hospital naman ako para sa medico legal ng victim survivor. It was supposed a trial na nong client ko sa araw na yan but yong lawyer eh lumapit sakin at ang sabi makikipag-usap siya about “plea bargaining” his client would like to pay the civil and moral damages plus probationary, meaning makakalabas yong perpetrator. And the lawyer added pa na, if you will agree now ma’am maybe you can sign the papers and boooomm!! Imbyernang imbyerna lang ako naman noh!! After niyang abusohin sexually yong bata, ganon at ganon nalang?!! Ang gwapo nila diba!! Hahaha so I told the lawyer immediately that we won’t agree for the plea bargaining so maybe we will go for a trial, just submit your written proposal so it will be formal chuuuccchuuu… ssooowwwss!!!

Hindi pa natapos ang stress ko sa court… hahaha

Around 2pm siguro we went now to the government hospital to finally na talaga as in final na talaga sana for medico legal sa new admission kong client. it was Monday this week lang na halos 3 hours kaming nagwrestling sa loob ng women’s desk kasi iyak sya ng iyak dahil ayaw niya magpamedico legal, if walang medico legal walang case ma-file and her perpetrator will not go to jail.

Nong Monday, hindi naman siya pinilit talaga for the reason of “the child’s right” hahaha hindi talaga pwedi pilitin, nangyaring umabot kami ng 3 hours dahil lahat na ng strategy ginawa na namin para lang pumayag siyang humiga at makunan ng medico legal, ang lagi lang niyang sabi while crying na “ayoko because ang dami ng doctor at nurses nakakakita and nakakahiya.” After that, lahat ng nurses at iba kong kasama lumabas, ako at siya at yong doctor nalang ang naiwan and yet, walang nangyari talaga dahil ayaw niya and that was 5:30 na ng hapon.

So ito na talaga ang totoong araw nan a-convince na sya for the medico legal. It took us for almost 2 hours again na kausapin siya while nasa bed na siya dahil yong doctor found something and biglang yong doctor eh tumawag ng ibang doctor for consultation, apat na doctor ang pumunta just to check and validate kung ano ang meron (tumatakbo na agad ang isip ko na kaya pala madaming doctor tumingin sa kanya nong first check up niya dahil sa nadiscover nila) sobrang sakit daw na hindi mahawakan or something, kahit ibuka pa ng ibuka sobrang sakit daw kaya ayaw niyang ipapagalaw. 

Although incomplete yong medico legal dahil half lang ang nakita ng doctor, may laceration, yes but kalahati lang talaga but it is useful na rin daw sa pagfi-file ng case kaya we stopped there, enough na yon dahil ayoko na dagdagan yong trauma ng bata. Kaya pala talaga ayaw niya nong first attempt namin magpapamedico legal for that reason na meron pa lang something na kailangan pang suriing mabuti.

Kaya kahapon pag-uwi ko sa bahay, ramdam na ramdam ko ang pagod at nakanga-ngang nakatulog ako sa sofa sa sala. Hahahahahaha ngayon nakakapagupdate ako dahil wala lang bigla ko lang talagang namiss ang buhay pagbblog. Hahahaha namiss kong magingay, namiss kong may kausap na ang paguusapan eh random hindi yong sa work ko ngayon. Stressful pero fulfilling naman talaga, ito kasi gusto ko kaya wala akong reklamo. I am happy and I want to share it to everybody this happiness. Ang saya kapag nakatulong ka lalo na sa mga batang tulad nila, pilit kong itago yong luha ko when they started to thanked you and hear them aloud praying for you.

Ang seryos ko eh. Hehehe wala lang. parang bigla akong nastress sa kwento ko hahaha

Pasensya na talaga sa tagal kong pananahimik hehehe at wag na kayong magtampo sakin alam mo na sino kayo wag na akong pilitin na ilagay ko pa dito hahahaha charraauugghhtt!!

Kumusta naman kayo? Kwentohan niyo rin ako.